Ministerial Spouses Association
Ministerial Spouse Leaders Toolkit
Lois King, PhD, CFLE, serves as the Ministerial Spouse and Women’s Director in the Atlantic Union Conference and the assistant director of Northeast Evangelism Training School (NETS). She is also certified as a Family Life Educator by the National Council in Family Relations.
Forsaken by Parents but Taken in By God (pdf)
I grew up in a staunch Catholic home. One evening as I was talking with my neighbor the wind blew a piece of paper at his feet. He picked it up and read it. It was a handbill regarding an evangelistic meeting at a nearby school.
After attending the meetings I encountered many battles, both from my church and my parents. In the midst of this difficult time, I was convinced that I had to make a decision about the truth that I had come to know as I read and studied the Bible. I tried several times to run away from it all, but I could not.
After half of a century, I often look back at the events that led me to make such a firm decision to follow the Bible, even when my own life was threatened.
As a Catholic church-goer, I was not allowed to read the Bible. Instead, we had prayer books. As a result, I prayed to God by rote. I knew about Jesus, yet did not have a relationship with Him. My experience can be described as saying sincere words without having a relationship with God.
The songs I heard at the evangelistic meetings kept ringing in my ears, especially the theme song, “Every day with Jesus is sweeter than the day before. Every day with Jesus, I love Him more and more. Jesus saves and keeps me and He’s the one I’m waiting for, every day with Jesus is sweeter than the day before.”
Little did I know, the more I sang the theme song, the more Jesus became real to me. I fell in love with Him, developed a relationship, and was determined to follow Him all the way, whatever the cost.
Now, I am able to draw on my experience as a pastor’s spouse of forty-one years to understand the struggles one goes through when faced with truth, as well as the peace of mind and determination to follow Him that comes when one has a relationship with Him. I thank God for the heartbreaking experience. As a family life educator, I am better able to understand and relate to people who are struggling to make a decision.
My favorite text through those difficult times was and still is Psalms 27:10, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.” He has kept His promise!
In the words of Francis Chan, I believe that “God called you to be the church, not just gather in a room and listen to a sermon.”[*]
[*] Francis Chan, Twitter post, August 3, 2015 (10:55 a.m.), accessed September 28, 2015, http://twitter.com/crazylove.
- Building a Team
- Director's Introduction Letter
- Forsaken by Parents but Taken in By God
- Ministerial Spouses Keep it Real Responses
- NAD Mission, Vision, Values and Objectives
- Questions for a pastor’s spouse …
- Only by Love
- Delighting in God
- Enjoying the Closeness of God
- God, Show Me How to Love You
- Resources for Parents re Education
- When Loss is Gain
- On the Ministerial Spouse Journey
- Identifying Your Place as a Minister's Spouse
- Married to a Minister
- Coaches Training for Pastors' Spouses - Florida Conference
- Public Speaking Tips
- Understanding Your Brothers and Sisters-First Nations People
- Domestic Violence: What Church Leaders Should Know
- Reasons For Domestic Violence & Why it Continues
- How to Resolve Marital Conflict
- When Should You Refer?
- Ministering to Male Ministerial Spouses
- Congregational Expectations of a Male Ministerial Spouse
- On the Move for Jesus!
- Holiday Outreach Ideas
- Planning a Mission Trip
- Southern Union MS Advisory Ministers in Guam
- Spiritual Gifts & Evangelism preparation
- Transformational Evangelism handouts
- The Time is Now!
- Mentoring for PKs
- Impacting Your Community with a Prayer Breakfast
- Like Little Children: Assisting Children to Pray
- Pray One Million
- Planning a Retreat for Pastors' Spouses
- Report of Asian Ministries
- Spouses' Meeting Ideas
- My Life in Savoonga
- The Benefits of Team Ministry
- Together for a Purpose - Finding a Shared Ministry
- Introduction Letter
- Re-Organizing Your Priorities
- Ways to Include the Family in Ministry
- 10 Commandments of Christian Finance
- Impact of Adventist Education on Ministerial Families
- Connecting through Social Media
- Hospitality: what I didn't learn from Martha
- Financial Infidelity
- Financial Makeover
- A Sermon in Shoes
- Divinely Favored
- Forsaken by Parents but Taken in By God
- Grace in Living Color
- Hello, My Name Is…"Oh, You're Dave's Wife"
- I Simply Remember My Favorite Things ….
- My Faithful God
- Stumbling Through Life
- The Other Side of Stewardship - Delayed Blessings
- First Things First
- Complain and Blame or Pray and Praise?
- Four Quaker Questions
- Receiving with Grace
- The Unique You
- The Joy of Waiting
- The Secret to Satisfaction
- When God Becomes Vulnerable
- Balancing Church and Family
- The Attitude of Gratitude
- In Times of Loss: Surviving Spousal Benefits
- Boost Your Body, Brain, and Mood
- Embracing Courage
- Emotional Intelligence A Biblical Understanding
- Lessons from Peanut
- The Power You Have
- Pastoral Burnout
- 7 Steps for Maintaining an Exercise Routine
- Asian/Pacific Ministry Reports
- Facilitating Small Group Discussion
- A Safe Church for our Children
- Helping Troubled Members
- Every Church A House of Prayer!
- Getting Started
- Befriending Clergy Spouses of Other Faith Communities
- NAD Ministerial Spouses Association Overview
- Building Your Team