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Lois King, PhD, CFLE, serves as the Ministerial Spouse and Women’s Director in the Atlantic Union Conference and the assistant director of Northeast Evangelism Training School (NETS). She is also certified as a Family Life Educator by the National Council in Family Relations.

Forsaken by Parents but Taken in By God (pdf)
I grew up in a staunch Catholic home. One evening as I was talking with my neighbor the wind blew a piece of paper at his feet. He picked it up and read it. It was a handbill regarding an evangelistic meeting at a nearby school.
After attending the meetings I encountered many battles, both from my church and my parents. In the midst of this difficult time, I was convinced that I had to make a decision about the truth that I had come to know as I read and studied the Bible. I tried several times to run away from it all, but I could not.
After half of a century, I often look back at the events that led me to make such a firm decision to follow the Bible, even when my own life was threatened.
As a Catholic church-goer, I was not allowed to read the Bible. Instead, we had prayer books. As a result, I prayed to God by rote. I knew about Jesus, yet did not have a relationship with Him. My experience can be described as saying sincere words without having a relationship with God.
The songs I heard at the evangelistic meetings kept ringing in my ears, especially the theme song, “Every day with Jesus is sweeter than the day before. Every day with Jesus, I love Him more and more. Jesus saves and keeps me and He’s the one I’m waiting for, every day with Jesus is sweeter than the day before.”
Little did I know, the more I sang the theme song, the more Jesus became real to me. I fell in love with Him, developed a relationship, and was determined to follow Him all the way, whatever the cost.
Now, I am able to draw on my experience as a pastor’s spouse of forty-one years to understand the struggles one goes through when faced with truth, as well as the peace of mind and determination to follow Him that comes when one has a relationship with Him.  I thank God for the heartbreaking experience.  As a family life educator, I am better able to understand and relate to people who are struggling to make a decision.
My favorite text through those difficult times was and still is Psalms 27:10, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.” He has kept His promise!
In the words of Francis Chan, I believe that “God called you to be the church, not just gather in a room and listen to a sermon.”[*]
[*] Francis Chan, Twitter post, August 3, 2015 (10:55 a.m.), accessed September 28, 2015, http://twitter.com/crazylove.