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Cynthia L. Nguyen, MBA, is passionate about her family - husband Vinh and their four sons, and for the ministry of their family for God. She is an accountant at Adventist Media Support Services in Riverside, California.

 Ways to Include the Family in Ministry (pdf)

After a special revival weekend at my church, and God’s gentle calling through my high school years, I knew I must follow the Lord. I was only 17, but I wanted to devote my life to God in ministry. I did not know how or where, but I knew it had to be with God. Throughout college and various challenges, I still had kept that same desire.
In terms of marriage, I could not see anyone with the same calling as I had, so I accepted that I would probably be single for the rest of my life. I prayed that whatever happened, I would always put God first.
Not until that prayer, did God allow me to meet someone wonderful! He was a young Vietnamese man named, Vinh. He had just attended a Revelation seminar, felt God’s calling, quit his prosperous computer engineering job, and entered the seminary. Praise the Lord for His leading. Vinh and I were married 3 years later, and committed our lives to service in the gospel ministry. We wanted our children to also partner with us and experience the joy and privilege of ministry. I would like to share a few tips that have greatly helped us do ministry as a family.
Devotional Life
A strong devotional life will give you renewed strength and energy. It will give guidance and wisdom in the life of your family. “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths” (Proverbs 3:5, 6). Having daily devotionals is a great time to get together in the evening with the family.
  1. Read the Bible Together - Follow a Bible reading plan, read a daily devotional, or study
    a Bible lesson. Children like to stay on schedule with a Bible plan. They do well with structured time.
  2. Prayer Journal- Keep a prayer journal with daily thanksgiving and prayer requests. Prayer will rejuvenate your life.
  1. Praises - Daily praises encourages the spirit of thankfulness.
  2. Prayer Requests – Write prayer requests down, and later record when the prayers are answered. Looking back, you and your children will be amazed how God answers each prayer!
  1. Daily Devotional Books
  2. Listen to Bible CDS- For example, Your Story Hour CDS in the car, on the way to school and work.
Support your Pastoral Spouse and your Children
“Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do” (I Thes. 5:11).
  1. Pastors Need Encouragement – The spouse plays a vital role in encouraging and uplifting the pastor.
1) Daily Walks Together – Walks together in the daytime or evening is a way to reconnect with each other while keeping physically fit.
2) Date Nights, Vacations, etc. – Scheduling regular time with your spouse is very important for a healthy marriage and effective ministry.
  1. Children Need Encouragement – The Pastor’s children need to be especially loved and appreciated. We need to be sensitive to our children’s needs. Be interested in what your children enjoy.
  1. Play sports or exercise together with your children.
  2. Children’s performances or programs should be a priority for the family. Children need to know that their parents support them and are proud of their accomplishments.
  1. Get Support – For healthy mental, spiritual and physical well-being, Pastoral Spouses need support as well! We were not designed to struggle alone through difficulty. Look for the many resources available to get help and support.
    1. Ministerial Spouse Associations- Spousal Groups in your area can be very uplifting and nurturing.
    2. Spiritual Mentors- Find another Pastoral Spouse to be a spiritual friend and supporter. Look for others that can provide spiritual guidance and that can relate with you.
    3. Marriage and Family Resources, Counseling, Seminars- Take advantage of the many resources available. Schedule time for learning and growth that can be applied to your daily life.
Make Efforts to Develop the Spiritual Growth of Your Children
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
  1. Literature Evangelism - Youth who are involved in canvassing work greatly develop their spiritual life. Youth in programs such as Youth Rush, Youth for Jesus, etc. develop skills on how to share their faith, how to witness in the community and how to give Bible studies.
  2. Children’s Programs - Attend conventions where there are other Pastor’s children with similar spiritual beliefs, who make similar healthful lifestyle choices, and where they can make lasting friendships.
  3. Christian Education - Quality Christian education is an incredibly positive influence on children in molding their character. Studies show the longer that children are in Christian education, the greater their achievement academically and spiritually.
Make Ministry Fun!
Include the whole family in evangelism, visitation, and literature distribution, while taking time to do fun and enjoyable adventures with your children.
  1. Evangelism- As much as possible, include the family in ministry. The children can participate in music evangelism, cooking shows, evangelistic video clips, etc.
  2. Literature Distribution- In every road trip, make it a missionary and fun trip! Instill in
    the children the burden for souls. Pass out small witnessing tracts at gas stations, restaurants, hotels, while visiting National Parks, scenic attractions, etc.
  3. Visitation- Visit new members and their children as a family!
“And let us not be weary in well-doing; for in due season we shall reap if we faint not” (Galatians 6:9).
“Workers for Christ are never to think, much less speak, of failure in their work. The Lord Jesus is our efficiency in all things; His Spirit is to be our inspiration; and as we place ourselves in His hands, to be channels of light, our means of doing good will never be exhausted. We may draw upon His fullness, and receive of that grace which has not limit.” *
*White, Ellen G., Gospel Workers, p. 19, Pacific Press, Nampa, ID, 1915.